Saturday, October 17, 2009

#1 Go Skydiving ~Jill Smolinski

I recently read a book about a young woman who was trying to complete a dead woman’s list of 20 things to do before her 25th birthday. The tasks ranged from simple things (wearing sexy shoes) to extremely difficult ventures (change someone’s life). As the older woman raced to complete the list by the deadline, her entire outlook drastically changed. By the end of the story, she decided to compile her own list of things to do within the span of her lifetime. To set goals and at times make a conscious effort to throw caution to the wind. To take a risk…put herself out there in ways that she had not previously done.

What originally drew me to this piece of fiction is that I, myself, have composed a list of things I wish to do/accomplish in my lifetime. The top of the piece of paper bears the words "Things To Do Before I Die." Examples of things from my list (some completed and some not): travel to all 50 states, do something completely uncharacteristic, stand on the steps of the US Supreme Court, see the Eiffel Tower, go on a cruise, own a house, and graduate from college. While some make think it is corny to have such a list, I personally think it is a good idea. By having these things written down, you are able to refer to your list when various opportunities arise. If you are teetering on whether to take an opportunity, sometimes a goal on your list will spur you to take the chance—to plunge into the unknown. Also, as you complete tasks you are able to cross them off and have a visual reminder of what you are striving for. A reminder of the things you want to accomplish, to experience, to have. While it may seem absurd, if you are struggling to find a purpose, a list of things to do gives you a purpose.

I created my list well over a decade ago. Through the years, very little about it has changed. I have only added a few items and deleted one from the original list. While a number of things have been accomplished, there still remains a large number of things to do. However, when I begin to feel as though I’m simply floundering in life, I pull out the list and see the things I have completed boldly marked off. This sight comforts me. I think the same can be true for anyone who creates such a to-do list.

I encourage everyone to compile a list of goals/experiences they wish to have in a period of time. It can be like the book with a specific deadline such as a birthday or a lifetime list like I created a decade ago. I do recommend having various stages of difficult on your list. That way you will be able to see gradual progress. Really difficult tasks will take time to happen. It is much easier to work on those over time while you complete a small goal here and there in the interim. So look deep into your desires world and start making those lists!