I saw an interview where teh person made a statement about exuding sexuality. Immediately, I began a series of flashbacks. In my lifetime, I have had a number of people comment on my sexuality. My mind possesses vivid memories of sitting on a couch as a man told me how captivating I was and how I "exuded sexuality." I felt it was a strange statement and couldn't help but wonder whether I should take it as a complement or not especially since I had no idea what I was doing to make him say that. I couldn't begin to make myself say "thank you" to such a bizarre statement so instead my response was "what do you mean." I listened to him talk about the way I carry myself, the air of confidence surrounding me and how my mannerisms seemed accidental yet deliberate. It was at that moment, years ago, that it struck me: confidence is attractive for both men and women.
Mentally so many people have lost sight of that fact. Women are so wrapped up in overt sexuality that they have lost the beauty and appeal of being subtle. As this man and many who followed him put it, the way you carry yourself with an air of confidence can be the most powerful attractive agent in the world. If you portray yourself as being nothing more than a walking sexual creature that will be all the world sees you as and not the intelligent/creative/funny person you are. That is not to say that we all haven't used a certain amount of sex appeal to get something we wanted. Whether it's with a teacher, principal, co-worker, boss, police officer, mechanic, etc, we are all guilty of that least attempting to flirt our way to a beneficial outcome. Personally, I don't think it's Armageddon to occasionally participate in such activities but it's when occasionally creeps over into frequent that there is a problem. At the point of frequent use of your sexuality, you are letting it define you rather than you defining it.
I wish young people would realize the incredible power they have locked within themselves. It's nothing to shy away from nor is it something they should try to force. The celebrity world seems to push sex at every turn and the youth of the United States is desperate to emulate what they see. They put on the practically nonexistent shorts/skirts, plunging necklines and seam splitting tight outfits to try and capture the "sexy" being portrayed to them. All the while, they are missing what truly makes a person exude sexuality. Confidence. So I say to you: Discover who you are and become completely secure in that knowledge. You define yourself not your sexuality. Innately sexuality is a part of that definition but it is not the entirety.
